My (Revised) To Do List for Today

My Revised To Do List For Today

My revised To do list for today

My Revised To Do List Today:

  1. Clean kitchen Gaze at my children’s sweet perfect faces.
  2. Pick up the living room Listen to my girl’s imaginative stories and swim in the pretend swimming pool she made on the floor out of packing supplies.
  3. Make dinner Appreciate the humor in daily life-wherever you can find it! Sometimes this includes what happens when your toddler tries to ‘help’ you and all your ingredients go flying…
  4. Strip the sheets  Enjoy watching my kids play, dance, and laugh.
  5. Make produce run Listen to the delightful concert coming from the backseat.
  6. Wash the floor  Remember that dinnertime is soon and the little one will just dump whatever she is eating on the floor again anyway so ya might as well forget it.
  7. Vacuum Appreciate the moment of peace and quiet…when you have kids, the roar of a vacuum drowns out all the crying and arguing, so make sure you get every speck of dirt and dust out of that carpet!
  8. Sit down and take a break. No strikethrough here-just stop for a minute!

Moms work hard; we all know that. But I often get so caught up in all the things I need to get done, and I forget to appreciate those sweet little giggles, the 3 year old humor, and the cuddly, sweet baby who just loves her momma. Sure, I would love to accomplish everything on my to do list once in awhile, but realistically it’s probably not gonna happen. Not now, while the kids are small. Not now while they need me every minute of every day. I am only one person- I am not required to do and be everything. I just need to be my girls’ mommy (and their daddy’s wife- but that’s a post for another day!) and love them like no one else.

My to do list will be there tomorrow, but my girls are getting bigger every day and soon enough, they will no longer cling to me when they fall. They won’t look to me to solve their problems (And who knows what solutions they might come up with on their own…!!). They won’t think I know everything there is to know, so they won’t bother to ask, “Why?” incessantly, and I won’t be able to guide them the way I can now, while they’re still young and impressionable.

It’s okay to put some things off until tomorrow. But not the most important ones.


My wise friend told me, “You never know the last time your child will do something…whether it’s holding your hand, or sitting on your lap…There will be a last time, and you won’t know when that last time is until it’s already come and gone.”. So stop and smell your children…Wait- that may not be something you want to do, especially if they’re still in diapers, haha! But be still for a moment and look at your kids; look at their sweet faces, and their sweet innocent spirits and appreciate the gift you’ve been given.

Try Your Hardest, and Don’t Accept Defeat

no defeatMy husband often tells me I have a defeatist attitude and it makes me mad. But the truth hurts sometimes. 🙂 I do struggle with a lack of confidence. I think I’m incapable, not intelligent enough…maybe it stems from childhood bullying, but then again, maybe it’s just a character flaw! I believe in having faith in God and He will take care of all that concerns you, but at the same time…God’s not gonna come down and put together your new vacuum for you. He might send someone to do it for you, sure….but only if you really can’t do it yourself.

Though it may not be Biblical, I believe there’s some truth to the adage, “God helps those who help themselves”. The Bible does talk about laziness…

Proverbs 6:9-11

9 How long will you lie there, you sluggard?
    When will you get up from your sleep?
10 A little sleep, a little slumber,
    a little folding of the hands to rest—
11 and poverty will come on you like a thief
    and scarcity like an armed man.

I’ve always loved verse 9. It used to remind me of my brother! (The one who set fire to the mower so he wouldn’t have to mow the lawn, haha!) He’s now a hard working, industrious father, so it’s cruel of me to divulge his slothful past, but…next thing you know he’ll probably be posting the infamous “Nudie-Butt” (baby!) picture of me online. All’s fair in love and war, I say.

You might wonder, what does all this have to do with my defeatist attitude? Sometimes it is pure laziness! You have to get off your heiny and TRY! I’m currently doing a fundraiser for my church, and I have very shaky confidence in my ability to pull this off. But I prayerfully considered it to begin with, and I’m praying for guidance along the way, and I’m praying for a good outcome. Meanwhile, I’m doing the best I can!

Because, in the end, it’s success has nothing to do with me, and everything to do with God.

Bentonite Clay Facials with my Mom

bentonite clay facials

If you’ve never tried a bentonite clay facial, you must do so!! Clay draws out impurities, leaving your skin fresher, clearer, and brighter!

I spent the week in Indiana last week at my mom’s while my husband traveled to Mexico for work. Mom and I had fun spending time together and she enjoyed time with her grandkids!

We kept busy all week, going swimming at her gym, having lunch with a friend, shopping….we even did a moisturizing clay-based face mask one night after the kids went to bed. It reminded me of our Friday Girls Night we used to have when I lived at home! I was always concocting some sort of DIY honey facial, milk foot bath, lemon juice fingernail soak, you name it!

Bentonite Clay facial
For a more moisturizing mask, try this one!

This time, we used a ready-made clay-based mask with COQ10 that nourishes, soothes and brightens. You just add water, make a paste and apply. I’ve done just a bentonite clay facial before and it really made my skin look brighter and fresher because the clay draws out impurities. Pretty awesome, right?? So, when I say this facial made my skin softer and clearer, it is not just my own biased opinion. 🙂 You can buy just the plain bentonite clay I’ve used in the past here or you can buy the nicely moisturizing clay mask like my mom and I used from the Pure Haven Essentials line I sell!

bentonite clay
For a more basic mask, try this one!

You should definitely try one of these clay masks! Who would guess that putting clay on your face would give you such beautiful, luminous. results?! My dad gasped when he saw my mom the day after our facial, and wondered who this strange new woman was! But, I’m pretty sure he was just humoring us…

Harmful Chemicals in Cleaning Products

harmful chemicals in cleaning products

I have to admit, I always wondered why I should “waste my money” buying natural cleaning products. I thought it was much more important to watch what you put into your body, limiting pesticides and buying organic. I still think those things are very important, but after delving further into the matter, I’ve discovered some interesting facts regarding harmful chemicals:

  • There are four basic chemical exposure pathways: inhalation, ingestion, injection, and absorption. You can actually absorb chemicals in the air through your skin!
  • According to the EPA, the air inside a typical home is, on average, 2 to 5 times more polluted than the air outdoors due to household cleaners!!
  • Some all-purpose cleaners contain diethanolamine (DEA) and triethanolamine (TEA). When these substances come into contact with nitrites (often present as undisclosed preservatives or contaminants), they react to form nitrosamines – carcinogens that readily penetrate the skin.
  • When you wash cleaners down the drain, they go into our water system. Most ingredients break down into harmless substances but not all. And of those that don’t, not all are removable by our water filtration system.
  • Chemicals released when using cleaning supplies contribute to chronic respiratory problems, allergic reactions and headaches.
  • 2-butoxyethanol, a key ingredient in many window cleaners (NOT required by law to be listed on ingredient labels!), can cause sore throats when inhaled and at high levels can also contribute to narcosis, pulmonary edema, and severe liver and kidney damage (An enclosed bathroom is considered a place of potential high levels.)
  • Maid and janitorial workers (who spend their days cleaning with chemical products) have been found to be among occupational groups that experience above average incidences of bladder cancer.

There are literally tens of thousands of untested chemicals in use today!

In a 2014 study, researchers at Harvard postulated that “even more neurotoxicants remain undiscovered” and they believe that, “Untested chemicals should not be presumed to be safe to brain development, and chemicals in existing use and all new chemicals must therefor be tested for developmental neurotoxicity.”


The Toxic Substances Control Act was first passed in 1976 and has remained essentially unchanged since. When the Act passed Congress it grandfathered in 62,000 chemicals, in essence giving a free pass to known toxins such as trichloroethylene and BPA. Now we all know now that BPA is toxic, which is why we removed it from our baby bottles (etc.) and no longer microwave our food in plastic dishes. But if that chemical had been tested in the first place, we wouldn’t have been unknowingly exposed. And the same is true for toxins in our cleaning products.

The FDA tells us that small amounts of certain chemicals are harmless. But it’s been proven time and again, that your body can’t get rid of every single harmful chemical in which it comes into contact. When we are exposed to those harmful chemicals, they build up in our body, and therein lies the danger. Also, studies have shown the combined impact of multiple chemical substances acting together is far more destructive to the body than each of the chemicals acting alone. You wouldn’t combine certain medications, so why would you combine chemicals in your body? We’ve all seen what happens when you experiment with chemical reactions in science class!

I believe natural cleaners do just as well as commercial cleaners. I often use just vinegar and water to clean my floors and counters with a little tea tree oil for boosted antibacterial, antiviral, and anti fungal properties.

Please do your own research; don’t just take my word for it! And do what you can to lessen the toxic burden on your body whenever possible. Every little bit counts!