Sometimes, even adults need a time-out.
Last week, my hubby and I took a trip to Mackinac Island in celebration of our 5th anniversary. The entire trip (including our fun detours, outlet mall shopping, and visiting my brother-in-law and his family) was less than a week long, but it was so relaxing!
Our time alone gave us the opportunity to re-connect without the 3 year old saying, “Excuse me, EXCUSE ME! I SAID, ‘EXCUSE ME!!'”(Bless her heart, she’s trying to be polite.), or hearing the 1.5 year old cry.
My mental health was beginning to show signs of wear and tear, judging by my irritability and lack of patience. Yes, I admit it. I was mean, and nasty, and at the end of my rope. Now that I’m back and fully refreshed, I just hope my loving patience lasts…my children are much more entertaining and adorable when I am not so stressed! I have enjoyed them so much more this week than I did before our trip!
I’m often tempted to be jealous of my friends with family (aka, built-in free babysitters) in the area…but I fight the feeling and remind myself that I’m just building character and becoming a stronger, more resilient person. When I’m not being impatient and irritable, that is. Yes, my kids are sweet, precious miracles, but parenting is hard, and often, it just plain old sucks!
Sometimes I’m afraid I will offend people with my frankness in saying how difficult parenting can be. But what I really want other moms to know, is if you feel like you’re drowning and can’t handle one more night of the bedtime routine, or clean up one more plate of spaghetti dumped on the floor the very day you *finally* got around to washing it, or lovingly quiet a sobbing child with yet another ‘owie’, or calmly handle one more outburst, you’re not alone!
All parents need date night, to step back and breathe, to have blessed silence, and peaceful conversations with their spouse. It is good for your marriage, and good for your children. Hopefully, someday they come out with Rent-A-Grandparent for transplants like me! I don’t need a therapist to maintain my mental health, I need a granny on call!
If you want to read more about our getaway, where we went and what we did, check out my guest post over at Family Vacations US. I am so excited-it just went live this morning about two hours ago. Thanks so much to Allison and Terri for letting me guest post!