The Importance of Taking a Time-Out

The Importance of Taking a Time Out
Sometimes, even adults need a time-out.

Last week, my hubby and I took a trip to Mackinac Island in celebration of our 5th anniversary. The entire trip (including our fun detours, outlet mall shopping, and visiting my brother-in-law and his family) was less than a week long, but it was so relaxing!

Time-Out trip to Mackinac Island
Re-Enacting a scene from “Somewhere in Time”

Our time alone gave us the opportunity to re-connect without the 3 year old saying, “Excuse me, EXCUSE ME! I SAID, ‘EXCUSE ME!!'”(Bless her heart, she’s trying to be polite.), or hearing the 1.5 year old cry.

Absolutely priceless.

My mental health was beginning to show signs of wear and tear, judging by my irritability and lack of patience. Yes, I admit it. I was mean, and nasty, and at the end of my rope. Now that I’m back and fully refreshed, I just hope my loving patience lasts…my children are much more entertaining and adorable when I am not so stressed! I have enjoyed them so much more this week than I did before our trip!

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I’m often tempted to be jealous of my friends with family (aka, built-in free babysitters) in the area…but I fight the feeling and remind myself that I’m just building character and becoming a stronger, more resilient person. When I’m not being impatient and irritable, that is. Yes, my kids are sweet, precious miracles, but parenting is hard, and often, it just plain old sucks!

Sometimes I’m afraid I will offend people with my frankness in saying how difficult parenting can be. But what I really want other moms to know, is if you feel like you’re drowning and can’t handle one more night of the bedtime routine, or clean up one more plate of spaghetti dumped on the floor the very day you *finally* got around to washing it, or lovingly quiet a sobbing child with yet another ‘owie’, or calmly handle one more outburst, you’re not alone! 

Trip to Mackinac Island
Romantic Carriage Ride…sort of…We shared the ride with another couple (strangers) to save money!

All parents need date night, to step back and breathe, to have blessed silence, and peaceful conversations with their spouse. It is good for your marriage, and good for your children. Hopefully, someday they come out with Rent-A-Grandparent for transplants like me! I don’t need a therapist to maintain my mental health, I need a granny on call!

If you want to read more about our getaway, where we went and what we did, check out my guest post over at Family Vacations US. I am so excited-it just went live this morning about two hours ago. Thanks so much to Allison and Terri for letting me guest post!

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15 comments

  1. Time away from the kids is so important, especially to sahm’s. I appreciate your frankness, it makes me feel like maybe I’m not such a terrible mom after all if someone else feels the same way I do.

    I used to think cultures where people lived with their parents and grandparents were nuts. Now that I have kids, I think it’s pretty genius, built in babysitters. I feel like in America, everyone is struggling to do everything on their own.

    1. Nothing makes me happier than when my mother in law visits-not just because of her sparkling personality (just in case she’s reading this! Haha!), but because I have someone to stay at the house during baby’s nap time!

      Thanks for the comment, Melinda! The only women that are terrible moms are the ones who don’t care if they’re terrible or not. 🙂

  2. Time away from the kids is just as important for those of us moms that work fulltime too. I wake up – take care of everyone, then work a full day, come home and – take care of everyone. I can always tell when I’m getting to that point where I need a break – I get so I don’t even like myself! So I feel ya – glad you were able to get away and reconnect with your husband!

    1. Thanks, Erica! I don’t know how moms who work outside the home do it…I already get overwhelmed with my daily tasks and responsibilities, without ever having to leave the house and work another job to boot! So props to you!:)

  3. It is so important for mom’s to take a time out. Even just taking a few moments to step outside for some fresh air can make all the difference in the world some days.

  4. I can so relate to this post. My husband has been out of town for a few weeks and it’s just been me and the kids. I also feel my mental state declining. After reading this I don’t feel so alone.

    1. Yes, it certainly does! It did my girls good, too. They loved all the attention from Grandma and Grandpa who babysat for us. 🙂

  5. I completely agree with you. I try to take time away from the kids once every other week of so. It may just be a tripto the store alone or time with friends. It’s important to get away for any length of time to recharge and reset. A week away would be divine.

  6. I’ve been to a business trip for a week a month ago and although it was very tiring I felt that it really helped me change from the usual routine and I came back home more relaxed and refreshed!

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